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by VomRuiz on 26 March 2010 - 15:03
Moons,
I didn't write that, so cannot take the credit for it...
I just made it in the catagory, being born in the early 70's, however... we didn't have video games (not even Atari) and punishment was usually a good swift kick in the rear... or if you really were bad "the belt" or "the paddle"
I didn't care for either myself....LOL A red, stinging behind was a reminder, not abuse...
Nowadays, a "spanking" or not telling your child that every little thing they do is "perfect", mean that the child will grow up with no job, no future, no self worth and maybe even a serial killer for having had such a poor upbringing... They are actually taught in many, many schools that if they are "spanked" to let a teacher know! Because a spanking is abuse.
And look at us now! We did make it! Kids these days not only have everything handed to them, they expect it! Ok don't get me started on that lol... I can go on and on about "kids these days" LOL
Stacy
I didn't write that, so cannot take the credit for it...
I just made it in the catagory, being born in the early 70's, however... we didn't have video games (not even Atari) and punishment was usually a good swift kick in the rear... or if you really were bad "the belt" or "the paddle"
I didn't care for either myself....LOL A red, stinging behind was a reminder, not abuse...
Nowadays, a "spanking" or not telling your child that every little thing they do is "perfect", mean that the child will grow up with no job, no future, no self worth and maybe even a serial killer for having had such a poor upbringing... They are actually taught in many, many schools that if they are "spanked" to let a teacher know! Because a spanking is abuse.
And look at us now! We did make it! Kids these days not only have everything handed to them, they expect it! Ok don't get me started on that lol... I can go on and on about "kids these days" LOL
Stacy
by VomRuiz on 26 March 2010 - 15:03
EXCELLENT post Hodie... I was going to quote some of my favorite lines, but they were all true
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S.
by beetree on 26 March 2010 - 15:03
When our neighbors created a pond for ice skating, we felt duty bound to stock it with frogs. Then came the polywogs!
We were also little entrepreneurs, setting up the lemonade stand, and going door to door to sell knick-knacks we made from seashells.
It was so different then, we had no respect for property boundaries. If the best sledding hill was in the other yard, that's where we went, we didn't care who owned it! These days, people will stand on the other side of the invisible property line as if they were wearing an e-collar.
One of our favorite summertime games was something called Annie Annie Open Free or something like that. We had to wait for nightfall and everyone would go hide. The person who was "IT" had to tag everyone out before they tried to come back to the safety of "home base". After that game, which could take a while, we would sit around and scare each other to death with ghost stories.
And I loved Monopoly, I was usually the banker. My play money was so used, it was all crinkly and soft, i remember ironing it!
We were also little entrepreneurs, setting up the lemonade stand, and going door to door to sell knick-knacks we made from seashells.
It was so different then, we had no respect for property boundaries. If the best sledding hill was in the other yard, that's where we went, we didn't care who owned it! These days, people will stand on the other side of the invisible property line as if they were wearing an e-collar.
One of our favorite summertime games was something called Annie Annie Open Free or something like that. We had to wait for nightfall and everyone would go hide. The person who was "IT" had to tag everyone out before they tried to come back to the safety of "home base". After that game, which could take a while, we would sit around and scare each other to death with ghost stories.
And I loved Monopoly, I was usually the banker. My play money was so used, it was all crinkly and soft, i remember ironing it!
by Two Moons on 26 March 2010 - 15:03
My wife and I took parenting seriously,
We home schooled one for a time.
I never hesitated to correct my children, never corrected without an explanation.
Always encouraged them at whatever they undertook and always took the time to talk and more important to listen.
Controlled the TV and computer and did not buy every new gadget or electronic device.
Never had a babysitter, we did without so one of us would always be at home and we took turns.
Made them work or pay for most things and they had chores around the house.
Taught them the difference between right and wrong ourselves, that was hard in this redneck backwoods place.
The schools did more harm than good.
We did a fine job, I have two wonderful sons who are turning into responsible adults.
My short fall was not watching what was going on in the world around me and being more active in that.
I've tried to teach my sons to pay attention to the things I overlooked,
and that no one is perfect.
Kids today are caught up in a storm and are searching for direction, looking for strength and identity.
In all the confusion it's hard to find the right path to take.
It's not going to get any easier, only harder for each new generation.
Parents have forgotten how to be parents, and families have lost their way.
It's the world we live in, what we leave our children to cope with that needs to change.
I gotta quit too,
I got started on something that has no end.
We home schooled one for a time.
I never hesitated to correct my children, never corrected without an explanation.
Always encouraged them at whatever they undertook and always took the time to talk and more important to listen.
Controlled the TV and computer and did not buy every new gadget or electronic device.
Never had a babysitter, we did without so one of us would always be at home and we took turns.
Made them work or pay for most things and they had chores around the house.
Taught them the difference between right and wrong ourselves, that was hard in this redneck backwoods place.
The schools did more harm than good.
We did a fine job, I have two wonderful sons who are turning into responsible adults.
My short fall was not watching what was going on in the world around me and being more active in that.
I've tried to teach my sons to pay attention to the things I overlooked,
and that no one is perfect.
Kids today are caught up in a storm and are searching for direction, looking for strength and identity.
In all the confusion it's hard to find the right path to take.
It's not going to get any easier, only harder for each new generation.
Parents have forgotten how to be parents, and families have lost their way.
It's the world we live in, what we leave our children to cope with that needs to change.
I gotta quit too,
I got started on something that has no end.
by Mystere on 26 March 2010 - 15:03
One of the BIG differences, IMO, is that there was more emphasis and concern, prior to the 80s, in plain old, old-fashioned LITERACY. Brats today can almost get by in school without even being able to read. They have books on tape (sold in BOOKSTORES, which pisses me off), DVDs and the internet to tell them what is in any book. We may have "fudged" a book report here and there with a "Cliff's Notes," but at least we did have to READ the Cliff's Notes!! I cherished my books as a kid. I even have four to this day that I obtained when I was about 14--I had to get one of those book-search companies to find them, as they were out of print. Kids today don't even have books--they have kindles and books on CD/DVDs. I spent many hours in the local library. I doubt half the kids on the street know where even their school library is located.
Respect was a major issue when I was a kid, too. We NEVER called any adult by their first name. Such familiarity was the kind of disrespectful behavior that would get you a slap in the mouth-quick. Even though we knew 'cuss words," we never used them where an adult would hear us using them. Today, seven year old kids will cuss an adult out. Some of them even cuss their parents out. ...and they get away with it.
Corporal punishment did not equal child abuse back then. It was called discipline...and some kids really needed it. A lot more need it, now.
When we were kids a lost kid crying in a store or a park, or amusement park could expect to be picked up and comforted by strangers, who then tried to help them find their parents. Today, adults are afraid to approach a crying child, for fear that someone will think they are a child molester. Then, too, that child is probably afraid of approaching a strange adult for help.
Times have changed. Some of the changes are wonderful; some are very, very sad.
Respect was a major issue when I was a kid, too. We NEVER called any adult by their first name. Such familiarity was the kind of disrespectful behavior that would get you a slap in the mouth-quick. Even though we knew 'cuss words," we never used them where an adult would hear us using them. Today, seven year old kids will cuss an adult out. Some of them even cuss their parents out. ...and they get away with it.
Corporal punishment did not equal child abuse back then. It was called discipline...and some kids really needed it. A lot more need it, now.
When we were kids a lost kid crying in a store or a park, or amusement park could expect to be picked up and comforted by strangers, who then tried to help them find their parents. Today, adults are afraid to approach a crying child, for fear that someone will think they are a child molester. Then, too, that child is probably afraid of approaching a strange adult for help.
Times have changed. Some of the changes are wonderful; some are very, very sad.
by Red Sable on 26 March 2010 - 18:03
"Did you guys use to catch pollywogs? "
Absolutely!!
Great posts Moons, and Mystere.
Funny, we who had to work so hard for every penny, turn around and give our kids it all, because we don't want them to go through all the hard times we did.
Then we realize, that is what builds character and the drive to succeed. Not only that, but the older generation takes pride in their achievements, and appreciates what they have. Not so with a lot of youngsters, it came too easy.
by SitasMom on 26 March 2010 - 18:03
As an older child and young teenager
kick the can
Frisbee
climb trees
collected lightning bugs
rode bicycle
trained dad's hunting dogs
played with tonka toys
and lots of swimming
As an older teenager
fishing
hunting
watched high school athletics
hung out on "The Strip" after the game - the road with all the fast food restaurants - driving from one to the other....
FLIRTED WITH ALL THE CUTE BOYS!
for spending money-
washed cars
cleaned out garages
mowed lawns
painted houses
de-tasseled corn
kick the can
Frisbee
climb trees
collected lightning bugs
rode bicycle
trained dad's hunting dogs
played with tonka toys
and lots of swimming
As an older teenager
fishing
hunting
watched high school athletics
hung out on "The Strip" after the game - the road with all the fast food restaurants - driving from one to the other....
FLIRTED WITH ALL THE CUTE BOYS!
for spending money-
washed cars
cleaned out garages
mowed lawns
painted houses
de-tasseled corn
by hodie on 26 March 2010 - 21:03
Red Sable wrote the truth: "Funny, we who had to work so hard for every penny, turn around and give our kids it all, because we don't want them to go through all the hard times we did. Then we realize, that is what builds character and the drive to succeed. Not only that, but the older generation takes pride in their achievements, and appreciates what they have. Not so with a lot of youngsters, it came too easy."
Amen and Amen!
Amen and Amen!
by wlpool on 26 March 2010 - 21:03
Simple question. Simple answers
As a small child:
Play with hunting dogs
Ride horses stupid horses
Gardening
As a teen:
played with stray dogs
put myself through high school
As a young adult:
Broke and trained problemed horses
rode bulls
bred Great Danes
bred Mastiffs
Put myself through college
My children to date:
Play with Imported GSD
Ride calm horses
Ballet
Read
Write
Learn math
You are what your care givers set you up to be until you are self aware, then it is all you.
As a small child:
Play with hunting dogs
Ride horses stupid horses
Gardening
As a teen:
played with stray dogs
put myself through high school
As a young adult:
Broke and trained problemed horses
rode bulls
bred Great Danes
bred Mastiffs
Put myself through college
My children to date:
Play with Imported GSD
Ride calm horses
Ballet
Read
Write
Learn math
You are what your care givers set you up to be until you are self aware, then it is all you.
by CrysBuck25 on 26 March 2010 - 21:03
Bravo Moons and Red Sable...You both are right.
My childhood was a hard one...My parents struggled to make ends meet much of the time, and we moved a lot, which made things even harder.
We didn't have TV, or any of the other accoutrements of modern society. But we learned to make do, to play with simple toys and have a good time...make a good time. In the winter, we made snow forts, and I shoveled snow. We worked hard, played some, and generally spent our time trying to learn to be decent people. I spent a huge amount of time reading about any and all subjects that interested me.
And when we did wrong, there was a price to pay, and we knew it. There was no idea to call and report abuse. You got yourself into trouble and you took your punishment.
Today's kids have no moral compass, no real sense of right and wrong, and yes, poor literacy. It's painful to behold, and I'm trying to raise two children in this world. YIKES.
And people wonder why I don't like all this electronic stuff for kids...Go out and play!
Crys
My childhood was a hard one...My parents struggled to make ends meet much of the time, and we moved a lot, which made things even harder.
We didn't have TV, or any of the other accoutrements of modern society. But we learned to make do, to play with simple toys and have a good time...make a good time. In the winter, we made snow forts, and I shoveled snow. We worked hard, played some, and generally spent our time trying to learn to be decent people. I spent a huge amount of time reading about any and all subjects that interested me.
And when we did wrong, there was a price to pay, and we knew it. There was no idea to call and report abuse. You got yourself into trouble and you took your punishment.
Today's kids have no moral compass, no real sense of right and wrong, and yes, poor literacy. It's painful to behold, and I'm trying to raise two children in this world. YIKES.
And people wonder why I don't like all this electronic stuff for kids...Go out and play!
Crys
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