What A Country - Homeward bound -2 - Page 4

Everybody makes missteps. It's just a part of being an imperfect living creature.  There does come a point, however, when one has to take a hard look at the choices one makes, and the consequences of those choices, and realize that the only way to stop experiencing the same kind of shit in life is to stop making the same kind of choices time and again.

I have been in this situation; I stayed in an abusive marriage for ten years because I thought I had no place to go, no resources, and too many blameless lives dependant on me.  When I finally left, yes, I got help from friends and from family. And because of that, I pay it forward as much as I can afford to, whenever I can (present circumstances included). But there  seems to be one very significant difference in how things went for me once I set out to rebuild, and how things are going in this case--but I also became very, VERY cautious and took my time when it came to choices and actions, and I looked at the potential consequences of every decision from every angle before doing anything. The ten years that went before weren't wasted so long as I learned something in that time and could use it to prevent myself from ending up like that again.  One thing I learned is that there's risk taking, and then there's INFORMED risk-taking, and when one is in dire straits like this, there's no room for the uninformed version.

Shelly, I know it's painful to hear this said, but it sure doesn't seem like you've been revising your decision-making criteria since you made your escape; you said you found out on Oct. 29 that you had to stick around PA for court, yet if this bitch is due to whelp on Jan. 16, it means you bred her well after you knew you weren't going to be settled in out in CA by early November...but you bred her anyway and put her in this risky situation of having to travel in rough conditions while near whelping.  I don't recall you mentioning this pregnant bitch before this, 'cause I'm pretty sure even the most optimistic, Pollyanna-ish supporters would have tried to get you to see that a cross-country road trip, in a vehicle that was unfamiliar to you as far as mechanical reliability, with a near-whelping bitch in the dead of winter was NOT something you should embark upon.  It will be a minor miracle if you don't end up making a plea for info on an emergency vet while you're en route, and personally I'll be lighting some candles and saying some prayers that you dodge that bullet.

Girl, there's a lot of folks, including many who don't really even know you beyond this forum (me included), who really, REALLY want to see you get back on your feet and regain full control of your destiny--but you've GOT to start being 'less hectic' and 'clearer in the head', to use a few dog training phrases, or you're just going to repeat the same mistakes with different actors in the supporting roles.  I'm sure I'll get flack from some folks for being harsh, but it's time to stop blowing smoke up your skirt and hold a mirror up to what you're doing so you can really see what it looks like. 

Here's to the van not having any further issues, you and all the dogs staying healthy, and the whole tribe arriving safely in CA as soon as humanly (and legally) possible.  Now shake out the moss in your brain and start using that head of yours!

autobahn
what rubbish are you coming out with you are like a bloody parasite which clings to something living to draw blood from
Who in there right mind would travel across the USA in the dead of Winter in an unstable Motor, a woman all alone is not a good and safe thing to do, Yet you think she is a Scammer,
 It is people like you who prey on others when they are down and to me you are the bloody dregs of humanity,
You are only now talking about the Female whelping just to aggravate the situation but you had already started downing the the Lady on the other thread, Your post 10 Jan at 00-01 telling Shelley to get a Job and ripping  her off  for doing what she has done so all you are doing is stirring the Pot so do not come the saintly ways on here as if it is the first time you have said anything about it
Very few if any are interested in your views on it, If you do not agree and do not want to help then the decent thing is not to air your views at all for it serves no purpose
Most on here want most of all for Shelly to reach her Goal and that will take a lot of Courage from her carrying 5 or 6 dogs when she could have let then go and made it easier for herself but she did not they are part of her so there welfare is hers to see to and it must be hellishly hard more so when she has the Flu bordering on worse i know this and it was the first thing i said to her when i phoned her the other day
The Lady should be in a Warm bed being taken care off her health is not good at the moment and still you want to add to the stress, Yes my friend i can see that you are a real kind hearted person
Steve1

 There is one major difference between Shelley and an unknown person suddenly appearing on this board with a similar story.

There is one word to describe the reason some of us choose to stand by Shelley regardless of her choices:

            Friendship

I guess some people do not comprehend the true meaning of that word.

Actually, for the most part, I believe (and hope), most people on here would still come to the rescue of a total stranger with her dogs, in whelp or not, on such a journey. 

Since you Shelley haters don't know the full story and probably never will (and trust me, there is a lot you don't know) you just need to go find something else to do.  Go find a little dog to kick around in an elevator, but don't forget to check for cameras first.  Go pull the wings off some flies.  Go tell little kids there is no Santa.  I could go on & on but I'm sure you have lists of your own on how to be nasty.  Little,insignificant people like you need to bully and pick on others to make yourselves feel better.  How pathetic.  How utterly sad that your lives are so empty of love and happiness that you can't stand the idea of someone else getting help when they need it.  Shelley is motivated by things that should the truth ever be known you would hang your heads in shame for even questioning her.  You would be outraged to know some of the things that have happened to her and I'm not talking about her abusive husband. Take your conspiracy theories elsewhere.  You will get no satisfaction here.  A privileged few know details that will never be shared with you so go back to your soap operas for your drama.  That's all that you deserve in your tiny little lives, soap operas on TV.   

I am not saying anything that isn't true, and the many PM's I have received shows that other people are thinking it and just not saying it as well. I am not against Shelley, as I said, I would say this regardless of who did it. I am always, always for the dog, and breeding a dog in this situation is just not right. I am sorry that some of you seem to think it is. Hell, I am employed full time with a place of my own to live and I can't possibly think that I have time to raise a litter, let alone be jobless and homeless and do it. I really hope the dog is fine and whelps healthy pups, it's just sad that the dog has no say in the matter. I am not saying that Shelley is a bad person for doing this, just that she shows poor judgement when it comes to breeding the dog.

Autobahn, don't you get it? Your timing SUCKS.

well Steve please tell me how will power produces those people who are just there to help or because of will power just happen to send her some funds od some encouraging words. Unless you have something constructive to say to this woman in transit shut your trap1Shelly appears to have some degree of faith I for you to attempt to destroy it is inhuman! Because you have no faith is no reason to try to destroy someone elses 1

Roll on Shelley...

If you were up in this Michigan cold, the door is always open with homecooked meals and hot coffee. Plenty of room for extra dogs,10 acres to work them and a whelping room for a pregnant bitch... I will continue to keep you in my prayers. Hope you feel better soon.

I surely do not personally know shelley, but we share a lot in common through the love of Shepherds. I would be richly blessed with the opportunity to learn from her, had she been this way...

Shannan  :)

Faith in ones self is the strongest factor in any ordeal, Faith in friends helps, Place your faith where you feel it will serve the best purpose. I have faith in Shelley that she will survive and thrive.