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Like I said on page 2...I would really try to get this dog back. That guy has serious insecurity/inadequacy issues he's projecting onto an innocent puppy. He will never be happy with her and she will always know it. She needs out of there, period. If you refund him even one penny, that's validating his insanity. Full refund for dog back or no deal. Hard stance to take but I truly think that's the right answer. 

I have to agree with Jenni and others, this guy is trouble.  And the poor puppy, how dare h im be mad at her.  What a puke.  I would demand her back, with full refund and let him go someplace else, however, warn other breeders about this guy.  Post his name on the forum so all can see. 

 

Maybe he needs a full grown rescue.  

That guy is an ass and if that was my puppy I would definitely take her back from him.  Joanro you're trying to do the right thing :).  Good for you! 

Cheers, 

vonrivera

Joanro...what an unbelievable situation you're in!  That owner is an a**!!!  I hope you can get this puppy back from him.  The puppy is too good for him.  That owner sounds like a complete jerk who will nitpick every little thing with her and you for the rest of that pup's life.  Give him cash and bring her home.  After all that I've gone through with my dog...missing P2 tooth, severe skin allergies that will require Atopica for the rest of his life, plus a fistula scare...and I never once griped and whined to his breeder about it because I know that sometimes it's just bad luck but an awesome dog for me, this guy really infuriates me. I sincerely hope you can bring her home and when she's safe in your car, you can really let the jerk have a piece of your mind.

Sounds to me like that man doesn't want a dog, but since the wife and child do and are fond of her, he's barely putting up with the pup.    How unfortunate for that pup to be in a situation like that, and I feel bad for you to have to deal with this jerk.    

When I told him he's not going to be happy no matter how much money he gets back, so let me buy her back, full purchase price, he says, ' now what kind of person gives a dog back to the breeder and and what would you think of me if I did that?' Told him it'd be better than keeping a pup he gets mad at every time he looks at her. He reads forums so he thinks that's the politically correct attitude.

So is he concerned with what his family will think of him if he returns the dog, or what you would think of him?    

Me, what would I think of him. Said his wife and kid don't care about the ears , said his wife won't listen to him, so he calls me to bitch about it.

He says that he's concerned about what YOU would think of him, but it sounds like he's concerned about what his family will think if he returns the dog.    If you tell him that you would think he's doing the right thing returning a dog that he obviously doesn't want, as I'm sure you have already, it still won't solve the issue that he has - and that it is not with the dog, the dog is just a manifestation of this person's angst (IMO, of course).

What kind of person gives the dog back to the breeder? One who is honest with himself and with the breeder--regardless of how superficial it is to only want a GSD whose ears are standing, if that is something he needs in a dog in order to be happy with it, then he needs to own that truth.

If he cares about what you'd think about him if he returned her to you for a refund, tell him you'll think far better of him for admitting that he's never going to really accept her for the really good dog she is if her ears don't firm up, than you ever could of him resenting her because of something that isn't the pup's fault but refusing to let her come back to someone who does appreciate her as-is.

If he won't agree to return her to you in exchange for a refund, could you maybe talk him into letting her come stay with you for several weeks, so you can see if you can get the ears to firm up yourself?  Enrollment at "joanro's remedial camp for ear support"?